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Hey, since discovering the MBTI and reading 'Quiet' by Susan Cain. I feel less like an alien. I came across the MBTI a year or so ago. It has been such a relief. I have and am different. Small things affect me. I care when others walk past. It is such a relief to know that the burden is not mine alone. However I must say I am yet to meet another INFJ in my life?! Looking forward to that day.
Anonymous
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Thank you for sharing your experience with me!!

I’m sure the day will come when you meet another INFJ, but are you sure you haven’t had a conversation to one in the past? Remember that we are very good at blending in!

:)


rynnay:

shazzbaa:

There are a LOT of “how introverts work” infographics and explanations on the internet. Some of them are really good! But I still like this one. c: It’s an analogy my extroverted friends could get behind that doesn’t also imply that I’m a special snowflake princess that must be treated JUST SO. 
So I made a poster! *u* Perhaps it would be handy to hang up in your room or dorm???????? If you’re coming to OTAKON this weekend you should stop by The Athena Studio table and pick one up!

Perfectly stated!

rynnay:

shazzbaa:

There are a LOT of “how introverts work” infographics and explanations on the internet. Some of them are really good! But I still like this one. c: It’s an analogy my extroverted friends could get behind that doesn’t also imply that I’m a special snowflake princess that must be treated JUST SO. 

So I made a poster! *u* Perhaps it would be handy to hang up in your room or dorm???????? If you’re coming to OTAKON this weekend you should stop by The Athena Studio table and pick one up!

Perfectly stated!

(via falloutboypatrick)


dionthesocialist:

I think tumblr has left a lot of us emotionally stunted. This is a great community for empowerment, catharsis, or coping, but those things aren’t recovery in and of themselves. Comparatively, they’re easy when compared to the painful self-reflection and real-world scenarios you’ll have to encounter on the road to true recovery. Not only does Tumblr not focus enough on recovery, but there’s almost a disdain here for the very notion.

There’s a lot of time spent validating everything. “Your symptoms are valid! Your responses are valid! Your depression is valid! Your coping is valid!” Well, yeah, all that stuff is definitely valid, and understanding that is important step in recovery, but it’s certainly not the final step. All that stuff is valid in the same way a baby chewing on a teething ring is valid, and there’s nothing to be embarrassed about if your recovery is still in its infancy, but Tumblr almost encourages you to stay there, to never grow out of it.

There’s a difference between what’s valid and what’s healthy, what’s best for you. I recently saw a post that validated people who stay in their room all day. Is that a valid response to anxiety? Sure. Is it a healthy response? Hell no, and there isn’t a person on Earth who can convincingly make the argument that the best thing you can do for your anxiety is to never leave your room.

Or how about those “how to care for a _________” posts? They’ve got some great tips there, and a lot of what they say is true, but you cannot reasonably expect people to coddle your issues, insecurities, or self-perceived inadequacies. Your recovery has to come from you. It has to be a difficult decision you make with yourself and carry through with because you need it. Your recovery can’t come from hoping other people will validate you.

No one should be ashamed of where they are in their recovery process, but there’s also no reason why you should be in the same place with your issues as you were in 2010.

Your final goal is not validation. It isn’t empowerment. It isn’t finding a way to get through the day. It isn’t being comfortable with your problems, nor is it accepting that they’ll never go away. The final goal is health. The final goal is happiness. The final goal is contentment. The final goal is recovery.

(via homura)


Q
How do you deal with intense feelings of regret? It seems that INFJs are drawn to this feelings. Sometimes I can be plagued by regret for the smallest, usually insignificant, things, for weeks to even months at a time.
Anonymous
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Hello anon!

If you find yourself regretting something, remind yourself that the other person doesn’t care as much as you do! INFJ’s tend to feel as if everyone is watching them (or I just feel like that). Remember that everyone has their own lifes to tend to!!

Clearing your mind can also help rid you of these feelings. I always count to three and take a deep breath to rid me of negative feelings! You can try this one, or make your own!!

The important thing to remember is to not let these feelings of regret consume your time. Live your life as if you never made that small little mistakes.

I hope this helps! :)


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Thanks for this! You're fantastic :)
Anonymous
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Thank you!! I’m sorry this is late, it had gotten a little busy at my end!!

I would also like to wish a Happy Father’s day to you and all of your Fathers!

<3<3<3


(via tanjacket)


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With everyone claiming to be relieved at the discovery of being an INFJ, it feels like we are wizards at hogwarts or mutants at xavier's school for the gifted!
Anonymous
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Hahahahaha! Except we don’t have any magical powers!

(It’d be cool if we did though!!)


Q
.Hi, fellow INFJ :) I have recently discovered the MBTI and well, I finally felt ... understood in a way. I'm not alone, I'm not weird, I'm just different. So, How did you feel when you discovered the MBTI?
Anonymous
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I kind of felt the same way you did, Anon! Except I was way more relieved then you seem to be. All my life up until the point I found MBTI, I knew I was different, but I just thought I was crazy, and that something was wrong with me. But, after finding out I was an INFJ, I was so happy that there were others out there like me.

That reason is part of why I started this blog!! <3 


INFJs often feel frustrated when the world doesn’t see them for their true inner nature. Others can appreciate the INFJ’s warmth and people-skills, but it is Ni, not Fe, that is the core of the INFJ’s identity. Moreover, when INFJs do venture to share their Ni insights or subversive ideas, they often feel that others really don’t understand them.

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Have you ever had people close to you tell you that you were crazy, or tried to get you to believe that you were crazy? Well, my adopted mother often did this to me when I was a teenager making me feel like things about myself were weird, wrong, or indicative of a mental disorder in turn making me constantly question the validity of my feelings & thoughts, & even my sanity. Turns out I'm not crazy (just another complicated INFJ & a human being), any advice on how to heal and deal w/ this better?
Anonymous
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Can I suggest some thearapy?

Going to a therapist can really help you deal with this past and help you move foward in your life. And seeing a therapist does not make you wierd or crazy, sometimes people just need to talk to somebody professional and have them help you deal with some things.

But I do want to tell you that you’re NOT crazy, you’re perfectly sane and you’re adoptive mother just didn’t understand you.

I hope this helps!! :)