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Is there an accurate internet test that tells you what your Myer's Briggs is? I get INFJ or some variation of it, and I want to be at least 80% sure :) Thanks

Sun, 05 May 2013 14:04:08 -0400

Sadly, most internet tests are not very accurate! :(

What you can do is look up the traits of an INFJ. if you feel like you relate to that, then you can safely call yourself an INFJ!

If it’s a little off try looking up INTJ,ENTP and ENFP, as these three types tend to test and look like INFJ’s too!

I hope this helps!:)

Some how I have ended up with all of my friends being teenaged extroverts, a bit crazy, I know! The problem is when we are out in a busy cafe with loud live music, and they meet other friends who I dont know and have little in common with them) and become hyper, get involved in long conversations leaving awkwardly sitting there watching their conversation, as their awareness of me seems to fade away... what do I do/how do I cope with this? There's only so much polite laughing along one can do...

Sun, 05 May 2013 13:58:28 -0400

Hello!

Well, what I usually do in this situation is try to get to know those people better! But if you’re not comfortable with doing that, try asking your friends to help you feel more comfortable! Explain to them how you feel and try to work with them to make you feel better.

You can totallay ask your friends to make sure to include you in the conversation. It’s easier to get along with someone when you’re forced to talk to them!

I hope this helps!!:)

(Also, it seems like my askbox is broken again, so im really sorry if you sent this a while ago!)

My heart goes out to everyone who was hurt today in Boston. If any of you live in the Boston area,...

Mon, 15 Apr 2013 18:02:00 -0400

My heart goes out to everyone who was hurt today in Boston.

If any of you live in the Boston area, please be very careful, and please stay at home. It’s the safest place to be right now.

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Hey, this is the work anon from before. I just wanted to say thank you for suggesting the podcasts. Listening to other people talk to each is a HUGE help! I feel much more sane after my shift!

Wed, 10 Apr 2013 20:57:34 -0400

I always love to hear when my advice works! I’m very glad that I could help you Anon!

There's this ENTP I've known since kindergarten. ENTP and INFJs are a 'perfect match' but true to his type he isn't very emotional and I cant tell if he really likes me. He makes it a point to talk to me after class (we sit on opposite sides of the rooms), asks for hugs/ handshakes, compliments me, runs up to me/ yells my name in the hall/ lockers, and other things. He seems to genuinely enjoy talking to me and laughs and smiles around me a lot. I feel very natural with him. But idk, help?

Wed, 10 Apr 2013 20:56:27 -0400

If by ‘really likes me,’ you mean as a friend, then you’re thinking to far into it, he definitely likes you as a friend, if not then he wouldn’t be doing all of those things. ENTP’s are know to cut ties when someone or something becomes more of a hassle than a help.

But, if you mean romantically, I would first ask him to hang out (as friends) outside of class. Then see where it goes from there, and base your future actions on how you feel.

I hope this helps!:)

There was an anon that messaged me a couple days ago about finding their true self That’s an...

Sun, 07 Apr 2013 22:52:58 -0400

There was an anon that messaged me a couple days ago about finding their true self

That’s an issue I’ve struggled with myself anon, and I’m trying my best to find the best way to describe how to find yourself

I’m sorry anon, but if you could wait a couple more days i’ll have your answer soon enough!

My new job entails me driving a car for eight to twelve hours and I'm finding it's actually way too much thinking time for me. I need to find a way to exercise my extroverted functions, but I never see people during that time. I just thought I'd see if you had any suggestions. Thanks.

Sun, 07 Apr 2013 22:40:43 -0400

Hello!

I actually just went through something like this! My family and I just drove two days to get to Florida! I’d normally put on some music and just daydream, but I found myself stuck in my head for a little too long, and thing just got bad!

But this time, I downloaded a bunch of podcasts!!! Hearing people talking to each other without your input can help you with those extroverted functions while you focus on driving!

I personally was listening to the Roosterteeth podcast, partly because it was free to download on Itunes and I do enjoy listening to them. But there are many different types of podcasts out there, so just find whichs ones are right for you.

Another suggestion is to listen to audio books, but I know that after a good book all I want to do is think about the ending and the characters. If you don’t get like that Anon, then go for audio books too!

I hope this helps!!:)

I am so creatively frustrated. I am really creative but haven't found my outlet as yet?! Have no idea what I should do with my life

Sun, 24 Mar 2013 15:29:49 -0400

I would just try as many things as possible!! Try writing a story or poem, try painting a picture, or maybe you could mix some music! The only way to find out what you want to do for the rest of your life is to try everything and find the thing you like the most!

I’m so sorry this is late, i was out of town for a couple days! I hope this helps!:)

The Ghost In Winterfell: How to Spot an INFJ

Mon, 18 Mar 2013 17:50:32 -0400

The Ghost In Winterfell: How to Spot an INFJ:

my-sideoftherainbow:

This 100% accurately describes me. I wish more people in the world understood this about us.

by quietmusician

An INFJ demeanor can range from either appearing sad to lost in thought to slightly angry or irritated. Of course I have known some with a more…

Hi, I'm an INFJ and whenever I'm with someone who I'm interested in I can become very annoying, talkative, and slightly rude.I hear the voice in my head saying "don't say that" but I do anyway... How can I prevent myself from doing this?

Fri, 08 Mar 2013 21:47:35 -0500

Hello!

I would just slow down and think about what you’re saying! And remember to breathe! I always tell that to my talkative friends when they just keep talking.

Try to let the other person tell you their opinion for a little bit. But be careful! If you don’t agree with them, don’t shut them out. leave them room to argue with you.

(Just a small tip, when you talk to people you don’t know very well, stay away from controversial topics! Ask them what they think about the songs played on the radio, it’ll start a good healthy discussion!)

I hope this helps! :)

Hi, I'm a male INFJ and I know when my female friends' periods are, its so weird, I just know, why is this?

Sat, 02 Mar 2013 23:32:59 -0500

Well, that’s just your introverted intuition working its magic! (Or curse if you feel that way!)

I hope this helps!!:)

Hello! I'm 18 and have M.E. (CFS) and depression, is this normal for an INFJ? I feel so drained all the time yet try to do so much for my friends and aquaintances, at the expense of my health, and I get so so angry at them (when they dont understand it) and my health, which just makes me worse!

Sat, 02 Mar 2013 23:30:44 -0500

Hello! Depression is a normal thing in teenage INFJs! If you feel that you need to, go see a therapist and get some professional help! (If you have not already)

Your CFS is probably from helping your friends so much along side your depression. I don’t feel CFS is common with INFJs but I could be wrong!

I think you should take a week for yourself, and rest up. Shut off your phone and just be with close family members for a little bit! After, you should feel really refreshed! That should help a little bit with your CFS.

I hope this helps!! :)

toastyuriko: chrib3r: A psychologist walked around a room...

Tue, 19 Feb 2013 10:22:33 -0500

toastyuriko:

chrib3r:

A psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they’d be asked the “half empty or half full” question. Instead, with a smile on her face, she inquired: “How heavy is this glass of water?”
Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.
She replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn’t change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.” She continued, “The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything.”
It’s important to remember to let go of your stresses. As early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don’t carry them through the evening and into the night. Remember to put the glass down!

I needed this.

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Tue, 19 Feb 2013 10:21:32 -0500

I'm an INFJ in a relationship (with an INFJ/P) and I don't want to leave but I don't know if I should stay. I love them, but don't know if they're 'the one' I should marry. Does this understanding and certainty come with time? Or should I be certain reasonably quickly? It's just i usually instinctively know what I should do, i don't regarding the future of this relationship and we've been together for around a 14 months...

Tue, 12 Feb 2013 18:24:46 -0500

Hello! It’ s been a long time since I had a question on this blog!

If you don’t feel like this person isn’t ‘the one’ then I would leave the relationship when you’re ready to. If you’re having fun with this person, and are very happy, then I don’t see why you can’t stay around for a while

I would break up with them if you feel like they’re going to propose soon, so you don’t end up in a sticky situation! But otherwise, I don’t see why you should break it off just yet!

I hope this helps! :)

Do INFJ males gravitate to women that are not well suited for them? I have several male infj friends who try to "save" the woman they date? Is this normal?

Sun, 13 Jan 2013 18:13:39 -0500

This is also normal for all genders! It’s just natural for INFJs to try to fix the world and the people around us! But this often leaves us in heartache, so I would watch over your friends and make sure they don’t get into too much trouble!

I hope this helps!:)

Is it common or normal for INFJ's to attract controlling relationships? (both platonic friends and romantic relationships)

Sun, 13 Jan 2013 17:56:33 -0500

It is very common! I often try to let my friends make choices on where we go out or what they want to do, so I don’t end up trying to control the situation as much!

I’m also sorry for the very late response, but my tumblr seems to be having problems. I turned off missing e to see if I could get some help, hopefully the problem will be fixed soon!

I hope this helps!:)

I'm really thinking about what I want to do for the rest of my life (career wise.) Whenever I think about staying in that one career or life or whatever I get really anxious and start to freak out. Is that normal for an INFJ? Complete anxiety about "settling down?"

Sun, 06 Jan 2013 20:59:28 -0500

This is normal for anybody! The future can be a very scary thing! My advice is to pick something that you like doing, and stick to it! That way, you’ll be really happy as you get older! And when the time comes, you’ll be ready to settle down and grow older.

I hope this helps! Good luck!:)

How do you figure out someone's personality type without doing a test?!

Sun, 06 Jan 2013 20:47:35 -0500

This is a very hard thing to do, but I suppose you could start by studying the Myers-Briggs types! There’s a lot more to it than that, but I’m sure you’ll be able to find you’re way through the information!

I hope this helps!:)

Being an INFJ and breaking up with people it always seems to me that I just completely stop all romantic feelings towards the person once I believe it'll not work in the long run. Would that be generally the case for INFJ's? Also how'd you approach the breakup? cheers.

Sun, 30 Dec 2012 23:23:50 -0500

I personally never felt that way about my romantic partners. I’ve always looked back at found memories of them, and I will always feel a little attracted to each of them, because I had in the past.

But when I feel the need to break up with somebody, I usually just find the time to talk it out with them. I feel like prolonging a relationship you stopped having interest in would just make everyone involved feel worse. Find the right time to tell them that you feel like you two shouldn’t be a couple anymore. And don’t fight with them, it only makes things so much worse.

I hope this helps you!:)